Category Archives: Fearless

Start From The Very Beginning

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I’m doing a thing. I am going to write 100 words a day for the rest of the year.

Why?

Because writing became scary and overwhelming and I couldn’t face it. So I’m making a tiny goal I think anyone can do, even me, even now.

2017: A recap:

A move.

A surgery.

Another surgery.

I lost control over my body. It became this broken thing I was always trying to fix. I couldn’t move. I couldn’t create. Everything hurt.

I lost control of my mind. I lost all my nouns. I stopped writing.

So here it is. A new start.

 

*photo by Patrick Chin

What Will People Say?

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Let’s talk about what happens when you create a thing and put your art out there into the world.

When you put something out into the world, people will react.

They will ignore.

They will criticize or praise.

They will act jealously or generously.

They will be inspired to create something of their own or mindlessly click (and click away).

None of this has anything to do with you.

It is not your concern how people react. Their reaction is their own, not yours.

Your only job is to create.

Let people bring to it what they want. Your work is done.

You become your art’s lawyer, or its babysitter, or maybe its secret service agent. THAT is what’s making you tired. – Glennon Doyle Melton

Do the work. Don’t worry about the rest.

Building A Bridge, Not Burning It Down

Have you ever seen a movie about the girl who’s having a terrible, awful, no-good day and then decides, at the drop of a hat, to jump on a plane and start a new life? Or maybe you’ve heard a great country song about telling your boss EXACTLY where he can put this job.

While slamming the door on your way out of a job makes for a fun story, it is simply not a great thing to do in real life.

Let’s talk about how to be your own boss, the smart way. Continue reading Building A Bridge, Not Burning It Down

How to Actually Make Money Online

Welcome back to the Follow Your Dreams Like a Realist Series. If you missed it, here is Part One. In Part Two, we looked at how to know if you’re ready to quit your job. This week, we are looking at how to *actually* make money online.

Money is the thing no one wants to talk about. It is simmering under the surface, but we are JUST TOO POLITE to bring it up. Let’s change that. Knowing how much people made from their online businesses is what gave me the courage to quit my job. It really IS possible to make a living online. Let’s see how.

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Continue reading How to Actually Make Money Online

Am I Ready to Quit My Job?

Welcome to part two of the Follow Your Dreams Like a Realist series. When this conversation started, one of the most common questions was, “How did you know you were ready to quit your job?” The first step to any big change is to define what “ready” means to you.

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Here are three questions to ask to find out if you’re ready to be your own boss. Continue reading Am I Ready to Quit My Job?

Follow Your Dreams Like a Realist: Part 1

I just quit my job in order to be my own boss! I have had this crazy dream, ever since I was fourteen, to run my own writing and editing business. This week, it became real; not a crazy dream anymore, but something I’ve been working toward for a long time.

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A lot of people have been asking how I did it. Instead Continue reading Follow Your Dreams Like a Realist: Part 1

10 Ways to Kick Fear in the Face

10. Sign up for something you’re not ready for. A half-marathon in six months? A conference where you’re sure to be the worst in the room? A weekend kayaking training trip? Yes. Do that.

9. Ask a stranger for a thing. Anything. Look for rejection until it stops feeling personal. Learn from Amanda Palmer and Jia Jiang.

8. Spend five minutes writing out action steps to take toward something that scares you. Take it out of the daydream. Write it down on real-life paper.

7. Hire a coach. Find someone who will hold you accountable to take action.

6. Start a conversation with the next stranger you see.

5. Read this every single day:

Are you paralyzed with fear? That’s a good sign. Fear is good. Like self-doubt, fear is an indicator. Fear tells us what we have to do. Remember one rule of thumb: the more scared we are of a work or calling, the more sure we can be that we have to do it.
Steven Pressfield, The War of Art: Break Through the Blocks & Win Your Inner Creative Battles

4. Ask yourself, “What’s the worst that could happen?” Follow all your fears out to their logical conclusions. Ask if you can live with the consequences. “If I pitch to this client, and they say no… then what? Then I’ll still be alive AND will have gained some valuable pitching experience? That’s not so bad.”

3. “Share something small every day.” – Austin Kleon

Show the work in progress. It doesn’t have to be perfect. Show the steps. Inspire other people to be beginners, too.

Austin Kleon Show Your Work
via http://lisacongdon.com

2. Dance like an idiot.

1. Take a deep breath. Walk around the block. Spend a few minutes alone. Face the day. Face yourself. Face the rest of us. BE BOLD!