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What Will People Say?

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Let’s talk about what happens when you create a thing and put your art out there into the world.

When you put something out into the world, people will react.

They will ignore.

They will criticize or praise.

They will act jealously or generously.

They will be inspired to create something of their own or mindlessly click (and click away).

None of this has anything to do with you.

It is not your concern how people react. Their reaction is their own, not yours.

Your only job is to create.

Let people bring to it what they want. Your work is done.

You become your art’s lawyer, or its babysitter, or maybe its secret service agent. THAT is what’s making you tired. – Glennon Doyle Melton

Do the work. Don’t worry about the rest.

Envy is a Budget Killer

After a dinner with friends hearing about their Disney vacation, I went home and immediately began looking up travel agents, researching hotel rooms, and studying my calendar for a good week to make this trip. I am currently getting out of debt, and while a Disney vacation sounds like a blast, it is the last thing I should be considering based on my priorities. After a few days of “research” — longingly gazing at images of spa treatments and smiling families — I realized I had fallen into the envy trap.

The envy trap happens when you forget about your budget priorities and start living someone else’s dream. Read more over at the Billfold…

This is a Calling

 

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Welcome to the Follow Your Dreams Like a Realist Series!

You have heard people say this, or maybe said something like this yourself recently:

“I should really write that story.”

“I love the guitar. I wish I played more often.”

“I used to draw, but then life happened.”

Is there something in your life that keeps showing up? Maybe there is something you’ve always wanted to try. Perhaps you love something you long ago put away. Maybe there is something that repeatedly pops into your mind when you least expect it.

That still, small voice calling you to create something, to be a creator? That is a calling. Your art is not just a neglected hobby or a forgotten diversion. It is a calling upon your life, put there by a divine creator.

Pursuing your art is not a waste of time. It is not selfish. It is answering a divine call to use your gifts for the benefit of the world.

What happens when you ignore your calling?

At first, nothing.

Nothing happens.

Nothing feels pretty safe.  There’s no struggle. No sacrifice of time. No battling fear or rejection. Life goes on as planned. Nice, safe, nothing.

What else happens when you ignore your calling?

Like Hughes’s raisin in the sun, your gift dries up. It vanishes. Without light and air, it withers and dies. Not using the gifts and creativity you’ve been given causes your soul to shrink. Your ability dissipates. A calling, ignored, turns to a dull ache that makes everything feel dull. Off. Like your whole life is a step to the left.

I’ve been in this place. In the years I spent Not-Writing, I thought about writing. I read about writing. Instead of actually writing, however, I watched a lot of TV and ate a lot of food so I didn’t have to think about the fact that I wasn’t writing. My phone was easier to face than my life. I was killing myself through distraction. My heart hurt. My body hurt. My mind didn’t hurt, but it was too numb to notice that anything was wrong.

Your gift, unpracticed, becomes another heavy thing to carry through this life.

But there is a better way.

The way to grow in your skills is to practice them and freely share them with the world. Holding on to, saving up, or hoarding your gifts is the fastest way to kill them.

Creating is more than just using your gift. It is answering your divine calling. Using your gifts opens you to light. It provides room to breathe. It is a step to the right path, a place in which everything makes sense again.

Practice your art. Share what you know. Offer your gifts freely to the world.

 

Photo by Eddy Klaus

3 Quick Ways to Reduce Stess

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Welcome back to the Follow Your Dreams Like a Realist Series!

I am not a naturally organized person. I am a type B. I’m “forgetty.” I couldn’t tell you how old my kids are. I can’t even tell you how old I am. Because my brain tends more toward “creative,” than “organized,” I had to find some coping techniques for keeping my time and stress under control. Here are three life-changing time management and stress coping techniques.
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